Someone asked me today, “Have you realized yet that you love your daughter more then your husband?” My response… No and I won’t. The sudden shock with what I said startled them and they got awkwardly quiet. Now before you start to judge hear me out. Before my daughter, before my husband, all I was searching for was someone to fall in love with. You watch movies and as soon as they realize they love each other the movie shuts off. Not in real life though, you fall in love, get engaged, get married and then come the kids there is a lot more to the story. So think about it, your telling me i’m suppose to forget all that, stop loving my husband as much and love my kids more. NO WAY!

When I found who is now my husband, I knew from the first date that is who I was going to spend the rest of my life with. He became someone I did everything with and the only person I really even wanted to talk too. Now of course things changed when we got married because adulthood set in however, if i’m going to a concert, movie, game, to dinner…. I’m going with him. I spent almost 5 years of my life completely devoted to him. Then our daughter came right in time for our Two Year Wedding Anniversary. At first it was hard to balance both but by the time she turned 2 months old I told my self, Time to go on date nights. We have ever since. It may never be something grand but it’s time spent together.

I take this time with him because I don’t want that love we spent 5 years growing to die. If I was to put him on the back burner now, then spend 18 years raising my daughter till she goes off to school… Who is to say we will have anything left in common then? I believe this is the reason so many divorces happen. REMEMBER YOUR HUSBAND. He loved you first, he chose you, he provides for you, he kisses you goodnight and good morning, he is the one you sleep beside at night.

So the explanation to his question was a little long but it is the truth. No I do not love my daughter more then my husband. In the bible it states, first love God, next love your spouse, and last love your children. One day I will explain this to my daughter, I will explain to her that no matter how much I love her I will always love her daddy. I will always be on her daddy’s side. I will always pick my husband first because that is the way God intended in. “What God brings together may no man tear apart.” Sorry ladies that includes your kids.

Love your husbands. I know they say happy wife happy life but that is not true. A Loved man makes a strong household.

Work. Love. Mom.

P.S. I Love you Zach.