Becoming a mom exactly a year ago-yesterday, I have realized that time is here and then it is gone. However, the question remains where does it go?

As my 5 lb 12 oz baby was born there it seemed like time stood still if even for a moment. I felt I would spend my days after I had her cooking, cleaning, making bottles, getting a jump start on loosing the baby weight and spending time with friends. Reality, I slept. All 10 weeks of it. I would nurse her, change her diaper, do some laundry, visit with visitors and back to sleep we would go. Before I knew it, I was starting work the next day with, dishes in the sink, laundry needing to be done and floors that needed to be mopped. From then on I knew I was going to be searching for time.

Now some moms they got it together. They used their 3rd bottle of bleach for the week and their favorite pass-time is putting labels on baggies, for when their meat is going to expire. My whole issue, I work. I work 40 hour weeks. I thought when I left the corporate life and became a paralegal I would find this time everyone talks about. I however felt like I was still searching.

Today though, I have found it. I found the time everyone has. In reality, no one has the time to do everything. I realized today that just because I noticed her sink doesn’t have dishes in them doesn’t mean her bedroom linens have been cleaned this week. And just because her kids never have the same clothes on, means she has money for new outfits…. She probably has a pile of laundry in her closet.

Working moms. Where is this pressure to do it all coming from? Where does it say that you have to be on top of everything. We work 40-50 hours a week. Isn’t that good enough. Stop putting that all on your shoulders. You will then find the time. See the key is not to find time for everything but to find the time to do what makes you happy. I knew if tonight I got the dishes done fast and a load of laundry put in, I would feel better about sitting down and playing baby dolls for an hour. Which is what really mattered.

So the question is not where does time go? It’s what are you going to make time for. My favorite things to make time for is Work, Love (love for my Lord, husband, daughter, and hobbies), and being a mom.

Work. Love. Mom.

It sounds so complicated but it all evens it self out.